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In order to have a healthy passionate relationship in a deep satisfying level, here are a few things that are critically important.
Awareness
You and your spouse may be struggling and may have been upset at each other for quite a while over unresolved issues. Actually a good place to start improving your relationship is to acknowledge that there is something wrong.
You and your spouse may be struggling and may have been upset at each other for quite a while over unresolved issues. Actually a good place to start improving your relationship is to acknowledge that there is something wrong.
“Unlatch” from Negative Emotions and Behaviors
Some couples make the assumption that conflict and difference will resolve itself on its own. Time can heal, but you also need to be willing to work hard on improving your relationship. Relationship issues can be quite complex and it is not just a matter of learning how to “communicate” nice thoughts to one another.
Famous marriage counselor Susan Johnson said that simple skill building is not sufficient for marital improvement; rather, the ability to "unlatch" from negative emotional and behavioral cycles is required. Sometimes couples cannot do this alone because they are much too reactive to stay away from their established patterns, which result in feelings getting hurt and emotional separation.
My job as a marriage counselor is to identify and track the emotional experience of each person and to support the couple as they learn to engage in a more productive way so that each feels more heard, considered, respected and acknowledged.
Some couples make the assumption that conflict and difference will resolve itself on its own. Time can heal, but you also need to be willing to work hard on improving your relationship. Relationship issues can be quite complex and it is not just a matter of learning how to “communicate” nice thoughts to one another.
Famous marriage counselor Susan Johnson said that simple skill building is not sufficient for marital improvement; rather, the ability to "unlatch" from negative emotional and behavioral cycles is required. Sometimes couples cannot do this alone because they are much too reactive to stay away from their established patterns, which result in feelings getting hurt and emotional separation.
My job as a marriage counselor is to identify and track the emotional experience of each person and to support the couple as they learn to engage in a more productive way so that each feels more heard, considered, respected and acknowledged.
That is why even if your partner is not ready for couples counseling I will encourage you to come in so that you can get the support that you need to grow as an individual and as a partner. The objective is to help you to clearly express your wants and needs with your partner in a way they can hear them, and also to be able to take care of yourself in the mist of anxiety so that you do not overly react to your partner’s behaviors and demands.
Changing yourself is not always an easy task but it will certainly make you a better person and give your relationship a better chance versus neglecting your part (however big or small) and expecting your spouse to change. It is not that uncommon where one partner’s growth and change will lead to a shift in the attitude of the other, so that positive changes in the relationship can take place.
Changing yourself is not always an easy task but it will certainly make you a better person and give your relationship a better chance versus neglecting your part (however big or small) and expecting your spouse to change. It is not that uncommon where one partner’s growth and change will lead to a shift in the attitude of the other, so that positive changes in the relationship can take place.
Change Is Possible
An emotionally committed marriage can be a crucible for growth. It challenges us to be our best so that we can give our best. Counseling can support you to not just survive, but to thrive and to grow in a more fulfilling direction.
I believe that positive change is possible. I encourage you to try doing something different, to get something different, something better.
Please give me a call to see how counseling might help. It won't cost you anything, just a little of your time.
Sincerely,
Sharon
An emotionally committed marriage can be a crucible for growth. It challenges us to be our best so that we can give our best. Counseling can support you to not just survive, but to thrive and to grow in a more fulfilling direction.
I believe that positive change is possible. I encourage you to try doing something different, to get something different, something better.
Please give me a call to see how counseling might help. It won't cost you anything, just a little of your time.
Sincerely,
Sharon
Do you get tired of the same old argument, disagreement or conversation? Every time you try to talk about an issue do you feel even more misunderstood, hurt and angry? Are you tired of living in so much pain?
It's Painful To Be Apart
A marriage can be very meaningful as well as challenging. Being in an intimate relationship uncovers our deepest emotions and needs. However, most of us were not taught how to resolve difficult relationship issues especially when they stir up strong emotions like anger, hurt, fear and disappointment. Those moments can be so overwhelming that couples cannot help but engage in negative behaviors that often involve defensiveness, blaming and negative interpretation of each other’s intentions and actions. This escalates the hurt and erodes the trust in the relationship, resulting in more aggressiveness or withdrawal and continued alienation.
A marriage can be very meaningful as well as challenging. Being in an intimate relationship uncovers our deepest emotions and needs. However, most of us were not taught how to resolve difficult relationship issues especially when they stir up strong emotions like anger, hurt, fear and disappointment. Those moments can be so overwhelming that couples cannot help but engage in negative behaviors that often involve defensiveness, blaming and negative interpretation of each other’s intentions and actions. This escalates the hurt and erodes the trust in the relationship, resulting in more aggressiveness or withdrawal and continued alienation.
Reconnect Through Counseling
As a marriage counselor I can help you find a different way, a better way to be in your relationship. A way that is not full of tension and conflict which allows you to express your wants and needs so that they can be heard by your spouse. This will build a positive connection that allows both of you to be more at ease with each other and have more of what you want in your relationship.
As a marriage counselor I can help you find a different way, a better way to be in your relationship. A way that is not full of tension and conflict which allows you to express your wants and needs so that they can be heard by your spouse. This will build a positive connection that allows both of you to be more at ease with each other and have more of what you want in your relationship.
Building a passionate marriage requires effort and courage. The well respected marriage researcher and writer John Gottman said that it is not negative emotional engagement that predicts divorce, but rather the lack of emotional engagement. Feeling the frustration from an unsatisfactory relationship at least means that you still care and want something better, which is an important motivating factor that causes couples to seek help.
Change Doesn't Depend On Your Spouse
Healthier individuals make for healthier relationships. When there is a problem most of us would like our loved ones to change to meet our needs and our view of the world. The reality is that it is almost impossible to change another person directly. But when you start to focus on improving yourself and how you act, you will change the relationship.
Healthier individuals make for healthier relationships. When there is a problem most of us would like our loved ones to change to meet our needs and our view of the world. The reality is that it is almost impossible to change another person directly. But when you start to focus on improving yourself and how you act, you will change the relationship.
Do you want something different, something better, do you want to improve your marriage and reconnect with your spouse but wonder if anything will ever change. With counseling it is possible to stop doing what isn't working and to rebuild your marriage into one that has warmth, understanding, giving, trust and forgiveness.
Marriage Counseling
You Can Improve Your Marriage
You Can Improve Your Marriage
